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Today, i am going to talk about time management. “Please manage your time well”!, “have some time management!”. Do you find these lines familiar? I guessed so, it could be from the mouth of your teacher, boss, family or even friends!

We keep talking about time management. But do you actually know the meaning of time management? Whats the first thing when these words comes to your mind? Is it about just planning your time well, like maybe a “memory timetable”, while you follow what you are required to do on which period of time? For me, i feel that i have a problem managing my time well, i always do things at the very last minute and perhaps disappoint the most important people of my life. So today i am going to blog about this particular virtue that i might not have it now but i will achieve it someday.

Time management refers to a range of skills, tools, and techniques used to manage time when accomplishing specific tasks, projects and goals. -Extracted from Wikipedia

Feeling surprised that it can be referred as a skill, used as a tool and applied as a technique? I got shock too when i saw this.

Okay, now i am going to use my own words to talk about time management.

I believe you guys always heard people giving the same old excuses when they accomplish their task late,be it schoolwork or office work, or even when they are late for meetups. They will say things like ” Sorry, i did not have the time to finish” , “I was caught in a jam”, “I woke up late”. Why do i call all this excuses but not reasons? Given the fact that i always say this to people?

Because, all this are purely SHIT FROM THE BULL! They are all EXCUSES!!! There is no such thing as ” Sorry, i did not have the time to finish”. Did the person who assign you the task gave you something that is beyond human limits? For eg. Running from the north to the south pole in 1 minute? No right? So this is an excuse.

Next, ”I was caught in a jam”. If you were caught up in a jam, how did your other friends reach in time? Did they fucking fly there? Or maybe a high technology “TELEPORTATION”? No again right? You know that there is going to be a jam from your place to the destination, why can’t you wake up earlier so that even if you are caught in a jam, you will still be early? So uh uh , this is also an excuse.

Lastly, ”I woke up late”. This is the most common and worst excuse compared to the above. What do you mean by you woke up late? Did the cells in your alarm clock died down “coincidently” ? Or perhaps you slept late? Why can’t you buy a few more alarm clocks if you were a heavy sleeper? And in case one malfunction, the spare ones might wake you up? Why don’t you sleep earlier, so that you will not overslept? Okay, maybe you might be caught up late in the night doing some work, cant you bother to write a note to someone living with you to wake up up or perhaps text a friend to give you a morning call? What are mobile phones for these days?

So yeah, do you think what i am saying is correct? If you say you have no time or whatsoever ? How did Mr Barrack Obama do it? How did the news broadcasters do it early in the morning? They have 60 seconds in a minute, 60 minutes in an hour, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Which is practically the same as you do, and if they can do it why can’t you? Like what Mr Barrack Obama said before ” YES WE CAN” SO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF THAT YOU CAN!

Another thing i would like to say about time management is based on my own experience with the people around me.

There won’t be a time when i meet up with my friends, everyone is on time. We all take turns to be late, and why is this so? Let me picture out a scenario whereby A,B,C is represented by my friend, in three different meeting days.

Day 1

A, B and me were early, C was late.

Day 2

A, B and me were early, C was late.

Day 3

All of us were late except C.

I will explain why is this happening between us. It is all caused by a word called assume. In day 1 and 2 , we 3 witness that C is always the late comer. So we all assume that he will not arrive so early on day 3, so we all took our own sweet time to reach there, and by surprise C was early on that day, out of guilt perhaps!

And so , i want to tell you guys that, we should all be responsible and set role models for each other. Therefore none of us have to suffer the period of waiting which is obviously the most unfair thing for the early comers. I can suggest a way so that all your friends around you could practice the good habit. You will make a deal together that whoever is late give a free treat to everyone. Let money do all the talking yeah?! Haha

So this is what i am going to blog today, hope you guys like it and tweet me on your views about it?

ChrisSimpsons signing off! Have a great day and MANAGE YOUR TIME! YES WE CAN! :)

*This post is to help and i am not against any particular sex. I am being fair yeah?

Today i would like to talk about mutual trust and respect. This are the two key factors that can determine if a relationship is healthy or unhealthy.

First, lets start off with the common problems faced in a relationship.

1. Lack of mutual trust

2. Lack of mutual respect

3. Lack of communication

4. Insecurity

5. Over-Controlling

Mutual trust is very important in a relationship, without trust, you might as well end the relationship. In a relationship, you got to give your partner the advantage that you trust in them. Don’t dwell over small little problem like for example,my boyfriend is looking at other girls, i really don’t like it. Or my girlfriend went out with this bunch of guys, i don’t like it. Don’t you think these problems are very minimal and childish? Come on, what generation is it now? Does it mean that if your partner look at the opposite sex or hang out with them, it means they don’t love you anymore? Will you die from this? HAVE MORE FAITH IN YOURSELF!!!

Human beings behave like this naturally, we attract to each other. But that doesn’t mean anything at all. If you are so afraid that they mix with the opposite sex, might as well you lock them in a cage? Even dogs don’t get locked up in cages these days. Which means the way you are treating your partner is worst than how dogs are treated! So do you think this is called love?

The more you tie them down, the more you scared they will leave you, the more likely it will happen. However if you give them the trust, they will feel that you are very understanding and they will feel the love. Give them the freedom that they need. I will illustrate in this two scenarios.

Scenario 1

For example, if my girlfriend hates to see me looking at other girls and hang out with them. She gets easily jealous as long as there is girls around.

What i will feel is that, my girlfriend don’t trust me at all. I can’t fucking hang out with my friends. I treasure the relationship, but i also want to live the life i had before, to hang out with my friends. Then maybe one day, i would lie to her to go out with my friends of the opposite sex. Why would i do that? Not because i don’t love her, is because that she also doesn’t trust me, might as well i lie to her, it don’t make any fucking difference yeah?!

Scenario 2

However, if my girlfriend don’t bother me about this problem and trust me to hang out with friends and even the opposite sex.

I would feel that i am very proud to have such a girlfriend that understands me well. I believe my friends around me would envy me of such a understanding girlfriend. I would also feel the love from my girlfriend, and would not do anything to hurt her. Even if i would to cheat on her, my friends around me also won’t allow me to do so. And at the end, i will also trust my girlfriend. Isn’t this way better? Like infinite times better!

Girls always say that guys can’t be trusted. But what makes you think that guys cant be trusted? Did god tell you that guys can’t be trusted when you were born? No right? It’s because you don’t trust them, how do you want them to be trusted? What goes around , comes around. The word is TRUST.

If i would to picture a relationship to be metal, this would be the equation shown below. In order for metal to rust, you need water and air. And to prevent rust, you cover with a layer of oil or paint.

Relationship=Metal

Trust= Oil (Represented by the T in the word trust)

Without the T in Trust , Whats left is rust

I don’t know if you understand what i am trying to say, but what my point is. Without trust in a relationship, you end up getting a rusty relationship which its changes can’t be reversed. Cause when a metal rust, it is almost impossible to get it back to the original shiny state. So why no let yourself be the oil to prevent the metal from rusting? Trust in your partner!

Have you noticed that i have cover all the problems that i mention way above? Its all caused by one problem with is lack of trust. When you lack of trust, you tend not respect each other, and therefore you quarrel and lack communication. Thus cause your partner to feel insecure and over-control you. Ain’t that true enough?

So this is the end of my blog topic today, I hope this can help all my friends with relationship problems. Should you trust me? Yes you should! Although i don’t have a girlfriend and i never really been loved by anyone , but i can assure you its 100% fucking true that it would help you in your relationship problem.

So my friends, don’t fucking waste my effort in typing this. FYI it took me 2 hours plus to type this out. I could be doing myspace layouts or practicing singing but i chose to type this first.

I seriously hope i can help you, because you are my friend! And to some people that think i am being too serious, let me give you a big laugh,hahahahahahahahahahhahahhahahahah. I typed this in a very happy mood, I am not venting my anger here.

Again tweet me about your views!

Chris Simpsons signing off. Trust me and Trust you partners!!! :) Peace to the world!

Relationship?! Is that something good or bad? I know that relationships should be treated with love and care. But not to the extend of “over-caring”. Meeting ups for 24/7.

Isn’t it very tiring to see each other for every single fucking day? Won’t you grow sick of each other faces if you manage to get married one day.

Love does not mean that you see each other every day, its about the mutual trust in each other. You might not be living in the same country with your spouse now, but as long as you guys have mutual trust for each other, your relationship will still sustain and perhaps grow stronger.

The main point is, would you neglect the life you had before over a relationship? From my point of view is HELL FUCKING NO MAN!

Even if you start on a relationship with someone, you should not throw away the kind of lifestyle you had before you are in a relationship, and the people that were with you in the past.

If heard someone said that i cant live without you, that person must be fucking lying to themselves. If you cant live without them, how the fuck you became an adult from a small baby?

I am not trying to say being in love is wrong, who doesn’t want to be loved? It just that love doesn’t mean obsession 24/7. You can still go out with the friends that you used to hang out in the past, you don’t have to neglect them after being in a relationship. Because friends are always there for you, girlfriends won’t. Unless you are married and that might be a little different.

Lastly, i would like to say is that if you want to be in a relationship, PRIORITIZEyour time. Leave some time for friends, make it fair for both your partner and friends.

Tweet me on your views about this topic, much appreciated

Chris Simpsons signing off. :) Peace to the world!